How I Work
If you are coming to therapy, it means you want help with something, perhaps a specific issue in your life or a nagging feeling that something needs to change. Since I specialize in treating people with anxiety, panic and developmental trauma, there is often a great urgency for symptom relief. Providing tools and strategies for managing anxiety is an essential part of our initial work.
The integration of a somatic interventions, a mind/body approach, helps slow you down and invite regulation of your feelings; this is particularly important when working with anxiety and panic. When you are in a regulated state, it is then possible to explore and reflect on the past and present to find out what gets in the way of feeling whole.
Understanding your relationship with your parents/caregivers is an important part of the journey. It enables you to better understand you~to understand the survival resources you needed to use in order to feel safe in your family of origin. We may learn that you had a parent or caregiver who was very pre-occupied much of the time, and their lack of availability was transmitted to you as not feeling loved or even worth loving.
Sometimes clients have expressed concern that therapy is about blaming their parents for what they didn’t get during childhood. While that may be a concern, good therapy is not about blame; it is about acknowledging how the attachment style of your parent(s) has affected you! Parents (caregivers) have a major role in the creation of your nervous system: how you were treated, including your parents’ expectations of you, their belief systems, attentiveness and accessibility determines your level of safety in the world.
Attachment repair, the healing relationship between therapist and client, changes your brain. A therapist’s attunement to your needs and safety helps repair old attachment wounds; throughout the process your brain grows new neurons—new neural pathways to accommodate a more accurate, less distorted picture of yourself. As you create new internal mechanisms for safety, you grow your capacity for emotional regulation and healthy risk-taking.
Collaboration Is the Way Therapy Works Best
Collaboration is the key for a successful therapeutic outcome. Any relationship takes time to develop, and therapy is no different. It may take awhile for trust to develop, particularly if you’ve had experiences where your trust has been betrayed. My responsibility to all my clients is to create a safe place where we can be curious about your life, reflect on your past and present and work together to initiate the changes you wish to make.
I will be actively engaged with you in the healing process so you can create the life you want. Therapy works best when there is consistency, which means showing up regularly with an intention to participate in the work of change. A sustained, authentic collaboration is the best and most effective way to support an earned secure attachment.
Please, join me on this healing journey!
Contact me for a free-15 minute consultation. I look forward to hearing from you.